Why sometimes Soltitude is Important ...

Hello to all,
Today, i want to talk about SOLTITUDE..
Soltitude is a "a state or a situation of being alone".Now when we think about being alone, we feel kind of scared.Most of the time, when we are going through bad times, we feel insecure of being left out and alone..

Thats true, that nobody wants to be alone, but being alone is not bad everytime, because sometimes it proof to be boon..
Now you might be wondering ,how is it possible as nobody wants to be alone ..I will tell you for sure.


Sometimes , suppose you are facing a problem, it could be any emotional, financial ,etc.. At that time we feel
low and our mind doesnot feel calm.So we seek for advices from friends, family .If  advice given by them works, then its great !!! but if it doesnot work than only you can help yourself.
The question is HOW??
The solution is give yourself alone time.Relax yourself with sound sleep or music.
Most of the time , when i feel terrible, i like to wake up early in the morning ,watch sun rise.
I find that quite relaxing and doing meditation is also great.
I am not  kidding , it actually helps me.
Trust me you will also feel better.Now calmly think about the problem you are facing and all the situations , you are in .Think in different way, like if someone else has this problem , and that person asks you for advice, what advice you would have given him??
Analyse the problem.Search for a best possible solution.
Do think about  PROS and CONS of your final decision.
In this way , u can actually find the right solution to your problem, because you can recreate your energy and
you can definately end up making a right decision for yourself, because you can lie to world ,but cannot lie to yourself...

What to do when people judge you

Hey, Everyone ...

Today i want to discuss with you guys, the tricks to deal with  people who judges you.
You know what ,all of us go through this thing.Sometimes your family judges you,  your friends , may be your colleagues etc etc..
I would like to recommend few things to deal with this situation which irritates you often.
If you like my points follow them else ignore(as simple as that.)

1)Have Confidence in Yourself - People judge you only when you are not confident enough on yourself.The moment you have confidence to answer people,s questions , they will stop pointing at you.
Build Self Confidence.

2) Stop Judging Yourself - One of the  most important thing is you should stop judging yourself first.
Dont lose hope or trust on yours dreams  , just because others donot like it or believe it.
If you believe it , than you can make it possible .

3)Stop asking for People's opinion-If you think people around , dont understand you.Stop asking for their opinion .Dont chase their approval.Just do what you want to do.Anyhow you cant please everyone.

4) Be Optimistic and stay Happy - If you are doing something ,you should feel happy .Hangout with your friends when you feel low .Do some fun , refresh yourself when overloaded with sadness.When people who judges or underestimates  see you in happy mood ,automatically they will stop questioning you.Instead they will  feel jealouss  :P
Their what ?? why ?? where?? will go away .......................

5) Do your work with Passion - Whatever you do, do it with passion .Give your 100% to it.
Most of us dont like the work we do.If you dont feel passionate towards your work, that means you still have to find the things which really defines you , who you actually are.
Search your passion by questioning yourself what you actually like doing ?What are things which you can do daily without feeling bore ?Ask yourself.You may find your passion.

Very Inspiring Story .. ..Must Read

There were once 2 brothers who lived on the 80th level. On coming home one day, they realized to their dismay that the lifts were not working and that they have to climb the stairs home.

After struggling to the 20th level, panting and tired, they decided to abandon their bags and come back for them the next day. They left their bags then and climbed on. When they have struggled to the 40th level, the younger brother started to grumble and both of them began to quarrel. They continued to climb the flights of steps, quarreling all the way to the 60th floor.

They then realized that they have only 20 levels more to climb and decided to stop quarreling and continue climbing in peace. They silently climbed on and reached their home at long last. Each stood calmly before the door and waited for the other to open the door. And they realized that the key was in their bags which was left on the 20th floor.

This story is reflecting on our life…many of us live under the expectations of our parents, teachers and friends when young. We seldom get to do the things that we really like and love and are under so much pressure and stress so that by the age of 20, we get tired and decided to dump this load.

Being free of the stress and pressure, we work enthusiastically and dream ambitious wishes. But by the time we reach 40 years old, we start to lose our vision and dreams. We began to feel unsatisfied and start to complain and criticize. We live life as a misery as we are never satisfied. Reaching 60, we realize that we have little left for complaining anymore, and we began to walk the final episode in peace and calmness. 

We think that there is nothing left to disappoint us, only to realize that we could not rest in peace because we have an unfulfilled dream …… a dream we abandoned 60 years ago.


So what is your dream? Follow your dreams, so that you will not live with regrets.

Stop Cribbing over Past ,Take Action in Present

Hey Everyone,

Today , i am going to talk about a very serious topic ,which actually affects our life very badly .
We all  are human beings, and we all at somepoint of time make decisions.Our decision may come out be good or bad.
If it is good, our life changes in great positive direction and we feel blessed.But, if it is bad than we usually suffer.
 Our bad decison could be about anything , may be eating at odd time, may be wrong decision in buisness, may be something personal...it could be anything .

When we ruin our life due to that, a constant grief started residing in our heart.We feel frustrated, stressed, angry ,over - emotional and we usually recall the time we made that decision.We curse ourselves and say "Why the hell i did that?"....
So a constant feel of guilt make our life miserable.At that time

"WE FOCUS ON OUR PAST SO MUCH THAT WE FORGET OUR PRESENT".

That is the biggest blunder we do, we should not do that as it hampers our present  and inturn  affect our future too.It becumes a vicious circle of bad things coming over and over and we say
Why God, why me always ??So what is the solution for it..?

I know the solution , solution is within u.
Yes , the only thing you need to focus on is your  PRESENT life.
You need to concentrate on the work you are doing or may be the people who are in your life currently, because that is going to change your future.
Past is gone , just learn lesson from your mistakes done in the past and set yourself free from the burden .Sticking to bad memories is like recalling a night mare again and again.There is no use of it.It is just going to hurt .So leave it and move on.

One of my favourite movie KUNGFU PANDA has a dialogue
                                "YESTERDAY IS HISTORY.."
                           "TOMORROW IS A MYSTERY..."
              "TODAY IS A GIFT, THATS WHY IT IS CALLED AS PRESENT"
                           

                                         

Be a Right Decision Maker

In my last article "http://www.nascentsoul.com/2013/06/an-idea-for-blissful-life.html" ..

I wrote that we all should have Clearity of Thoughts and  the person who is actualy clear in his or her thoughts always take a right decision for himself.

Right Decision Making is an art which we learn from experiences of life ,but it is not necessary that you have to be old  for making a a good decision.You just have to be focused .

Once you make right decision in your life , your situations started to change from that time.
We often read the autobiographies of successful people , hear about their stories , thing which make them successful is their power to judge what is right and what is wrong for them.

Now the question which comes to our mind is  How to make a Right  decision in a particular situation ?

To make right decision we should always write down or should analyse the Pros and Cons of situation about which you have to make a decision.Listen to your heart as well as to your brain and then analyse.
Analysis is necessary and very important because mutual decision taken by heart and mind is the one which gives us satisfaction and  always prove to be right for us.
But dont take it hastily.

Once you have make up your mind, Dont change your decision quickly under the influence of people...
Be determined and stay tenacious.Be consistent with your work as there is an old saying

"Successful people  takes their decision fast and change their decision slowly while fail people takes their decison slowly but change them very quickly"