How to Manage your Aggression tactfully

Today i am going to talk about a quality which is considered to be bane for one's personality, but dont worry i will tell you, how you can actualy manage it.
YESSS,... we are talking about ANGER today.

ANGER is an emotion which actualy shows one reaction , when somebody feels offended about something.
Amount of anger showed by person depends on the situation person is in and definately upon the state of mind he is in.

We all, at some point of time show anger when we feel that something wrong has happened to us..
What i think is that ,we should show anger when we feel bad about something, but the point is how much expression of anger is required at that place or in that particular situation??

Generally, when we show anger to people, three things happens, in most situations:
1) They either got upset with us without understanding why we did that..
2) They would get offended and then onwards they avoid us...
3) They laugh at our back..
So, even if we are right we screwed our chances of making them understand why we are upset and  what should they do to make our life better..

So how can we put our points in front of them, we can do following things:

1) First, if something bothers you, analyse your situation quickly.If wrong done to you is by stranger in misunderstanding , you just forgive.

2) I know we feel angry at times when people say things at our back, if you really want to give a good reply, then dont say anything directly to those people but tell them indirectly that you don't like what they say. Play with your words in a way that they realise their mistake.

3) If somebody keeps on bothering you always. Its better to talk to them directly by saying that you want to talk .Ask them politely what is the problem . This upfront attitude make them feel a little frightened .There are chances they may deny the fact they have problem with you and will step a back which can work for you.If someone has real issue with you ,they will clear it as you have given them a chance to resolve the issue.

4) If somebody really gets on your nerves, even after talking peacefully that doesnot get improved.Always avoid the place where that person is..as his presence will generate -ve energy in the environment.So you keep yourself cool.Stay with people who like you and love you.

So in all these situation, you didn't wasted your too energy and also you didn't spoiled your reputaion.

Why Patience and Tolerance should have a limit..

After so long, i actually got a chance to write something which i have been thinking and trying to understand... That what should be the barometer  for patience and tolerance..
                                                    Sometimes when we donot have much option in life ,we just tolerate and   think that may be the time will change .We all do it...But what if time doesnot get changed , what if the conditions in which we are living just turns out  to be really bad.

Lots of question of such kind goes into our mind when we are actually in worse situation.
The thing is if we actually cant bear particular thing which is bothering us ,CHANGE is the only solution to the problem.Yes, give yourself a freedom from your problem.

You know it is often said that we should always possess the qualities like "Patience" and "Tolerance", which indeed is essential for one,s personality.We should have Patience, it pays you well , but as it is said that excess of everything is bad. Similarly we should understand ,sometimes we have to speak up when things are really not in our favour or when injustice is done to us.
                                                                       In Hindu Mythology there is saying "Person who tolerates injustice is bigger culprit than the person who do injustice."
Raising voice against injustice or wrong thing takes a lot of courage , but one has to do it because otherwise if we will tolerate than one day we will die.I am saying all that because i want to tell people that showing anger against injustice is first step against  injustice.So just dont be patient all the time if you are such kind of person who actually do help others and people take advantage of you and your patience.Just get up and take your own side.Take a stand for yourself as nobody else will do, until you and your inner voice that is your conscious will do. ..