How to discover yourself and why it is important?

It's been quite a long that I didn't write any blog post may be because I write only when I like to share my deepest observation and thoughts about real life and if I don't feel anything truly from the heart , I don't write at all.

So today I want to share my thoughts about why it is important to know about your inner self.Most of us believe that we are what, others think of us. So even if we are not, we gradually become a person what people want us to be because we let their thoughts rule our minds. It happens when our will power is less and we are less aware of our weaknesses and strengths.

Let me give you an example suppose a child goes to a dance class to learn dance for the first time but lacks behind other students and even the teacher says "you can't dance" it would hamper confidence of that child. Then the child may starts thinking that may be the tutor is right . Here his/her thinking would be over power by teacher's thinking. Even if the child wants to learn now he/she won't. It is just an example of how our personality gets affected by other people's opinion.

We can't change other's opinion but we can change ourselves. We just need to find our real selves . 

It is not easy to find who you truly are, what you truly wants because we generally gets distracted by outside world especially when you are extrovert as you are always among people and between their thoughts and attention. That you don't feel need to know who you actually are. But here comes the problem most extrovert don't enjoy their own company when they are alone because basically these people forget their problems when they are among others so when they are alone it is some what tough for them.

This problem is not only specific among extroverts only, introverts also don't introspect when it comes to properly solving their own problem because they over think but don't think critically and the way they should. 

So question is how can we know what we want or who we are?

The answer is not simple. But  there are various ways where you can know about your inner self like 

Knowing about the stuff you like to read,

Think about the things you would like to do forever.
Try to remember those days when you felt the happiest without any tension and obligation. 

When did last time you felt great about yourself ?

When did last time you had good laugh? 

When did last time you felt accomplished ?

All these memories, events and feelings will lead you to the path where you ought to be.

It is not one day process to know who you are instead it is gradual and life long process but you should start it as soon as possible. As we all are here for limited period of time.

To summarize it I just want to say if you don't feel happy about ur life,then either change yourself or change the situation :) 

How to Create a New You .

Following the Pavement of Truth will never be easy ,
but it will set you free
From Shackles of the Odd you are facing today.

Accepting your flaws , knowing your roots and working hard on your dreams will make you humble.

A Belief that your dreams will come true one day keeps your spirits alive.

Channelizing your energy into something constructive will make you grow, slowly but steadily.

Stop chasing people and their attention , you will get your self respect back.

Determining your fortay and improving it day by day makes you self satisfied.

Conquering your fears will fill you with pride and happiness.

Introspecting your weakness and working to overcome it will create a New Improved version of you.

Do you know you are genius.

Genius is a word which we usually associate with a person having High IQ like Albert Einstein, Shakespeare and many more like them.

So what did these legends had that you don't? Big Brains.
No, the  answer is they did the kind of work they were keenly interested in rather than doing a work what others wanted them to do .

They were normal people like us but they had "extra" courage or guts than us.
They pursued a career which matched their personality type and interest unlike most of us who never had courage to pursue our dreams .
The problem is we choose to become "Average" in some other field rather than choosing a profession where we can be "Excellent".

A High Paying Job can definitely pay bills but after certain number of years , it ends up filling an individual with lot of frustration because going to workplace daily where you don't belong may led to mental dissatisfication.

So what should be done to avoid mental frustration of this kind ?

Solution is do what you love in free time .
Don't ever leave what you love doing , whatever it is if you couldn't pursue your career in that field than do it in your free time . It will keep your dreams alive and will give you mental satisfaction.
Work on it in spare time until you start making money from it.

Follow you heart along with your Brain and World will appauld you.

How to know what is your passion in 2 minutes.

We often hear a word "Passion" in our day to day life. When we listen to the interviews of successful people we often hear them saying that "my work is my passion". We read statements like he/she is passionate about this or that thing. We often do , don't we?

Sometimes, it can take a life to understand what is your passion.So why not realise it as early as possible in your life so that you can live a happy life.

So most important question is how to know what is your Passion????????????

Is your hobby same as Passion

Or vice versa.

So the simplest way to know is think about an "activity you love doing the most" and "if somebody ask you to do, you can do it for free".

That activity is your Passion.

If you are thinking that you love doing painting but can't give it for free to anyone then painting might be your hobby but you don't love it to the level of "Passion".

If you can't do it for free its not your passion it is just your interest. 

Your qualities like self lessness, honesty, orginality and loyalty  makes you "Passionate".

ATTITUDE PROBLEM - OMG

This blog is coming straight from my quilt .I mean I am in my room , light is off , I have mobile in my hand and my head is inside warm quilt in this chilly winter night at my home. This is blessing and I feel blessed.

Moving on to the blog, today I thought I should write about a word which is often misunderstood by a lot of people. The word is "Attitude".

When someone says that 'x' has a lot of attitude we generally assume that person is arrogant.We think having Attitude is a bad character but there is nothing wrong in having it if it is not in excess.

Attitude is good if you have right amount of it.

You know if you will be too down to earth then my dear friend get ready to be used by others. Even your family and friends, acquaintances can do that too knowingly or unknowingly. 

So it is very important that you should set a barometer for your tolerance of things. It is very important that if someone is  trying to low down your self esteem or any thing like that. You should have a right kind of attitude to deal with them. Show them they can't take advantage of your goodness anymore. Show with your attitude . 

This can be achieved only if you are strong enough to get rid of such people.

Remember God wants you to respect others but this doesn't mean you don't respect yourself.

Always stand up for yourself nobody else will do that on your behalf but only you need to.

Thank you.

What is unconditional happiness.

We read, talk and heard alot about happiness all the time.
But what is happiness?
Its a feeling we all want to have all the time like 24*7*365 days .

But you know what it is impractical to feel happy all the time because we are humans and we feel different emotions at different times. It is normal to be sad, angry, happy, sulky within a day. Every emotion has its own importance. So it's okay if you don't feel happy all the time.


You often heard people saying, I was happy last time when I achieved something, or when I was on date with my gf/bf, when I got an appraisal and other stuff like that.

Now the biggest mistake we do here is we are tieing our Happiness with a Person or with a goal or with an event. But we should not do it.
We should not put any condition on happiness. We should be happy unconditionally. We usually wait for the time we would be happy but that time never comes because once we achieve one thing we tie our happiness to another thing. So we never ever feel happy.  So important thing we all should do is set our Happiness free.

Happiness could come to you anytime if you will let it come inside your heart without any condition.

It could come in a form of  a call from your old friend.
It could come if you hear your favourite song on radio.
It could come if you get unexpected holiday from office.
It could come if you get smile from a good looking stranger.
It could come if you get 100 rs note in your pocket unexpectedly
It could come if you get appreciation from your senior.
It could come if you see an extra pastry left in your refrigerator.

I hope you get my point. It's like a river , let it flow freely without constructing a dam on it. Keep smiling :)

Five Lessons learned in 2016.

Today I am going to share what I have learned from life in 2016. So let's start it.

1. Spending  time with your elders is very important.

We all are busy in our work and in this schedule we often forget  to spend time with our parents and grandparents.
They actually need us because they are growing old. They need our love at that stage.We should spend as much time with them as we can .So this is what I learned.

2. Travel whenever you have time and if you don't have time then create it.

This year I have learned how important is to travel and see new places in this one life.
Travelling not only rejuvenate your soul but it gives you chance to recreate a new you. Its quintessential for your mind and body, especially when your work is mandane and dull.

3. Another important thing which I learned is If you are always available to people's disposal they will take you for granted.

Being good to others is nice thing but it doesn't mean that others take you for granted so always remember that don't give them too much importance. Let them deal with your absence. It is necessary sometimes only then they can realise your importance.

4. One more important thing which I learned is "Expect the unexpected and always be on your toes when it comes to IT industry".

This year I have seen something which I haven't seen in my career of 5 years. I saw people being fired from the jobs in my firm and I was quite shocked . But I learned from this thing is life is unpredictable so don't waste money and use it effectively .

5. I have learned that if you can't give 100% effort to particular thing don't expect miracles to happen to you.

Basically I just want to say sometimes we want something so desperately but we don't want to put that much effort to it .That kind of attitude will not help us reach anywhere near to our goal . Hence we have to do extra efforts to make things done.



So this is what I learned from 2016 and I am hoping best things in 2017.